Finally, moderate learning my comments

When I set up this blog, I didn’t know much about blogging.Not only about being a blogger, but in general about blogs.I participated in some forums, but when it comes to blogs, I generally read the post and moved on.To be honest, it took me some time before I noticed that blogs even had comments.To be honest, they were often hidden in the blogs I read.

So, when I was the first time I started a blog, I had no idea what to expect when it came to comments.To be honest, I mainly expected that I wouldn’t get any, so I didn’t think about it at all.

To my joy, I got one!And then I got a little more and still gained more, and even started reaching new people through comments.It was great.

so happy!!!

Over the years, I kept the comments section as open as I could think of how to do it.Everyone could publish in my comments, and the only rule I had was not to follow other readers.You can offend me or post or disagree with everything, unless you attack other readers, I will leave you.

And it worked for me for a long time.

The first event that prompted me to think about this policy was that I got a troll, which left some unpleasant comments, but worse, he added links to very suspicious pages in these comments.I can’t say for sure that they were full of viruses, but they aroused suspicions in me.And many of them redirected to very hateful things that I did not feel comfortable by linking, even if they were in the comments section.

It was the first time I actually deleted the comment.I didn’t like to do it, but I felt it was right.And then I added the first limitation to my comments.I did it so that the comments with links to other pages had to be approved by hand before they were published.Basically, they remain in the folder of waiting for moderation until I have the chance to review them.Until they contain links to anything seemingly dangerous, I approve them all, but I notice that many people are impatient and simply send a comment without a link.What is fine.

All right…

If you’ve ever wondered why one of your comments disappears, this may be due to the fact that it contained a link in it and is now waiting for moderation.

And over the following years it was more than enough for me to be happy with my comments.

From time to time I received commentators who really didn’t like me.And I can’t pretend that it doesn’t bother me at all.But it doesn’t bother me too much.Certainly it is not enough for me to do anything with it.I also have a very unhealthy belief that hateful comments are a kind of success.To make the blog popular enough that someone who is not interested in what I am writing about at all can find it and devote time to commenting on is something I thought I would never achieve.

I know that I probably add a quite a large pinch of wishful thinking, but let me have it.

So sporadic trolls and even less often haters appeared and left.I publish every day and mainly reviews, it is difficult for everyone to be motivated enough to offend me in every post for a very long time.

I win !!!

I want to take a moment to say that I was lucky.I think I’m quite good in accepting unpleasant comments.Not completely thick -skinned, but also not thin.Somewhere in the middle.A disgusting comment will not ruin my day.I am also rather privileged, so there is not much beating.From time to time I get sexist comments, but let’s face the truth, I am more than accustomed to them and no one will ever make me feel bad because of being a lady.

However, there are bloggers there who receive absolutely disgusting comments.The hateful rhetoric that hits the house and hits hard.Things that can be even terrifying, even for me and are not directed to me.I think bloggers have the full right to get rid of this type of comments on their blogs.After all, it’s their blogs.I hope that I have never had such a situation myself.

Recently, I limited the comments section again.I had a troll, which, to be honest, seemed quite funny to me when it comes to trolls.There were random comments here and there, which had nothing to do with post or conversation.It didn’t bother me.It was mainly non sequitur, vague insults that there is really nothing to write about.And I was glad that I just let them complain in their small corner.

The problem is that one of my readers rebuked them and apparently just waiting for this opportunity.Then there was something that I can only describe as a small incellitis All in Caps.And as I said, my only rule is not to chase readers.I warned them about it earlier.

It should not be difficult to remember …

I could just ban their IP address, but it turned out that WordPress is a bit unreliable when it comes to that.I did some tests and I still pass a few comments.I didn’t want to put too much effort into choosing and moderating every comment.I already have a full -time job, I don’t need another one.And because my comments section was open to everyone, enabling anonymous commenting, I couldn’t just block the user.

So I tried something new again.I did it so that people must give a name and e-mail to comment.Of course, anyone who has a Gravatar account can still comment via Gravatar, so I thought that most readers would not even notice the change.But people who just accidentally want to get insulted will now have to at least give a fake name and bother to give me an e-mail account.I think that everyone who is devoted enough has received at least one comment.

Disappointing, it seems that this very small obstacle was enough to dissuade the latter troll and despite receiving a few comments the day before the change, since then I have not heard a word from them.

All in all, I would say that this change is positive.Yes, I would like to encourage comments as much as possible, but it makes no sense to create a toxic environment from my own blog.To be honest, I regret that I haven’t done it before.

Do you moderate or limit your comments?Did you have any problems after changing your comments?What are your thoughts on this subject?